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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being a strong father figure isn't about being hyper masculine.  It's about being a role model for your children, showing them how to be a good person and how to treat people.  Going camping doesn't make a man more of a man.  [/quote]

This is OP.Sure, I understand that. I love my dh because he is not a bonehead and is instead sophisticated and well read. Now I also know that my dh does feel like he missed out. His dad was NOT "macho" or outdoorsy at all. He never played a sport with my dh, worked out, went hiking or anything like that. He also, like my dh is a homebody and does not have any male friends!! I don't think this is healthy. I keep encouraging dh to go out and socialize with guys.  My dh says he was so sheltered as a young boy that he started watching football in college with his GF. Until then, he couldn't even connect with other men about sports!

I really want to create a healthy, male positive household and raise well adjusted and NOT wimpy boys![/quote]

OP -- honestly, I'd be more concerned about you being a mother.  I can guarantee that you will not create healthy, well-adjusted boys with the sterotypes and judgement your exercising right now.  Your husband is a man, whether you believe it or not.  Being a man doesn't mean he needs to be going camping or talk about sports.  There are dozens of ways to expose your sons to such things -- have them go to a hiking camp, enroll them into sports, etc.  Do you go camping and watch football?  If yes, then take your kids camping and to a football game, or watch games on tv.  If not, why not?  Please don't tell me because they aren't feminine enough.  Step up to the plate and be a parent.  Focus on creating good individuals, and drop the stereotypes.  Listen to your kids and find out what their interests are, and foster them.  Don't make them feel less masculine just because they don't like what you consider to be "masculine."[/quote]

Agree[/quote]

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