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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow.  There is a lot going on here.

First, it seems pretty clear that he has a lot going on, ands trouble managing it all.  When my child was 7 I posted some roughly similar questions and got asked if I had considered ADHD or learning disabilities.  I hadn't at all.  But it led me to do some reading and we did get neuropsych testing done - and DC ws diagnosed with ADHD inattentive, slow processing speed, and a mild math disability.

Second.  I think you did coach your son through his anger/frustration, but I think there is a lot going on here in the family.  Yes, he caused an injury.  But also yes - his sister threw something at him first and she didn't get any punishment at all.  Yes he is older.  Yes [b]she[/b] is only 3 and was bleeding.  But from his perspective, how on earth is it fair he gets a timeout and she gets love and comfort from you?  From his perspective, that is SO UNFAIR.  (heck, from my perspective I think it's little unfair too).   I think it's possible that he's become the problem child, and it might be clear to him that he's harder to be with and less fun for you parents than his little sister is.  He's probably a little jealous and really struggling with so much.  So for a kid that struggles with big emotions, he has to struggle with sharing mommy and (a too-busy) daddy, constantly feeling like he's the bad kid compared to his sister, loving her and hating having her around all at the same time.  That's A LOT.

So [b]third[/b], I'd really advise some sort of family therapy.  I would encourage you to  think of this as a family problem and not a DS problem.  [/quote]

Wow there are a lot of typos here.  I corrected them above.  [/quote]

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