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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry to say this but you sound like a bit of a drama queen yourself. Maybe he gets it from you. My take on your example is that you were really in his face. Did you really need to drag out of him sentence by sentence why he was in trouble? Of course he knows why -- he's 8, not 3. That might be why he "resists suggestions." You sound way over-involved in his emotions. Also, I'm not a perfect parent BY FAR but I would have addressed right away with him that you saw his sister throw the toy at him and that was wrong and you can understand why he'd be angry about that --anyone would be. (Were you just pretending when you said he's sitting there with furious tears streaming down his cheeks but you had no idea why?) His response -- to throw the toy back -- was what was wrong, not his feelings. Affirm his angry feelings and also emphasize that he's way older than his sister and needs to use bigger kid coping mechanisms than a 3 year old does.

Again, I am far from a perfect parent, but maybe you could emphasize how much bigger he is, and try to foster a more nurturing, big-brother type of response in him. Let him teach his sister things, protect her, etc.

My two cents.[/quote]

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