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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He can get the mortgage but also add you to the deed.  Do not agree to paying house expenses and mortgage without being on the deed or married for your financial protection.  I suspect you'll get very resentful of the lifestyle he wants.[/quote]

+1.  I was changing jobs right around the time we closed on our house, so we put the mortgage entirely in his name because it would have been more of a pain to provide information about my income and his was high enough to qualify for our rate.  I am on the title, though.  I would not have bought a house with DH before at least being engaged, though I know people who have.  Of my closest friends who did that, one has been married to the guy for 12 years (first of my high school friends to get married) and the other broke up with her BF about a year later and the house made the break up a little messier.  So, my point, is that it can go either way with buying a house while unmarried.

The bigger issue seems to be that you are having doubts and that you are having trouble compromising.  DH and I are possibly similar to you both in that he would love to live in a much more rural/far out place than I would.  So we compromise, neither living right downtown nor living in the middle of nowhere.  DH would never insist on buying a house somewhere that would limit my job opportunities, that would actually be bad for both of us.  The fact that you can't discuss and compromise on these things is concerning.  Maybe he thinks that it doesn't make sense to do so yet since you aren't married...but in that case it also doens't make sense to buy a house together.

And agree with others...don't contribute to a mortgage if you aren't on the title.  If the amount is comparable to rent you would otherwise pay, that might make sense...but otherwise, no.[/quote]

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