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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a divorced dad with 50 50 physical custody and the biggest surprise to me was how expensive it is to maintain two big enough homes.  People earned me but I didn't really get it.  The other surprise was that on my weeks, dealing with whatever comes up with the kids is hard.  Like if they get sick, there is no backup, my ex does not bail me out.  So I have to miss work.  I wish we could be nicer to each other in this way, but she doesn't care.[/quote]

You don't want to miss work when your child is sick? You never missed work when your child was sick when you were married?[/quote]

I can see where this could happen in a lot of marriages where the man covers everything financially is protected from the day-to-day impacted by this type of thing.  I'm curious to know how it impacts a male's career post-divorce with children when you have 50/50. Do you feel "daddy-tracked" if you never experienced it befo6re? Honest question, no snark.[/quote]

When I was married, I did sometimes miss work for sick kids, but other times my wife would.  To be honest it was usually her, but I did too because I could teleworking better than she could.  Now, I miss a little more, but I'm saying it's harder than I thought because I don't have any where to turn if I can't miss work, except babysitters.  I always know that if something comes up on my week with the kids, it's on me.  That is stressful beyond just the stress of missing work.  I have to a range things to not go too far out of town on my weeks, for example.  Some families back each othere up more, but my ex needed to make more money so she took a more demanding job.  It's been hard for both of us.

I do feel daddy-tracked, but I need the flexibility and I can focus on my career again later.  I don't regret doing 5050 physical, I'm just saying I didn't realize how hard it would be
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