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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She wanted the divorce and sprung it on me by surprise. I did not fight her over money or the children. Originally, she just wanted to leave without the kids. I said OK. Then she wanted the kids. I knew the courts are biased so I figured it was best to make sure her and the kids were financially taken care of and not to fight because I thought that would impact the kids. I thought that being adult about the situation and continuing to be concerned about her welfare would be reciprocated. I was wrong. Frankly, this was the most hurtful things for me. The divorce was very difficult for me and I did the best I could but she really wanted to inflict pain and suffering on me. [b]So even though I paid 15 years of child support in advance to her [/b]and made sure the house was paid for and in her name and having done this I was wiped out financially she went about telling everyone that I abandoned them without anything. That really hurt. I also thought that because I treated her as nice as I could that she wouldn't get between me and the kids. I was wrong. She did and said things that forced them to chose sides. They chose her (at least initially). She prevented them for talking to me on the phone. She would unilaterally change pickup and drop-off times. She told the school not to communicate with me about grads. Bottom line is that it has been hard being vilified when I did and continue to do my best. That latest things she has done....told the kids that if they want they can move in with me. They got excited about that. Then she changed her mind. I'm fully expecting her to pin it on me.[/quote]

That was a really stupid thing to do.  What state were you in that your lawyer advised you that this was a reasonable course of action?  I'm not aware of any state where payment of a lump sum obviates your child support obligation if, as just one example, your ex blows all the money and comes back for more.[/quote]

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