Reply to DH's anti-social nature causing resentment

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "DH's anti-social nature causing resentment "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My DH is a milder version of yours and I'm probably even more extroverted than you, OP.  It definitely causes a bit of friction.  But I try as hard as I can to let him choose whether or not to attend things with me and to only insist that he attend certain important events.  I get that he doesn't want to do nearly as much socially as I do and I try to respect it.  Have you talked about this with DH in a big picture sense, rather than about a particular invitation?

My advice is to explain to him that is important to you that he attend at least some social things with you/the kids and you need to prioritize and figure out which things those are.  Is it the couples dinners or the hang out events  on the block or something else?  And then for all of the other lesser important events, let him choose whether he wants to attend (and do not nag him or pout if he doesn't).

No one should give you grief about DH not attending events, nor should you be embarrassed!  If anyone asks where DH is, say he's an introvert and he's home reading.  Or say that he's got a long run in the morning and he needs to go to bed early.  Whatever.  Who cares?  It is not a sign of problems in your marriage if DH does not accompany you to every event.

I went to a wedding recently and was talking with an older woman acquaintance who has been married for 30 years.  I asked whether her husband was at the wedding and she said, oh no, he doesn't do weddings and hasn't been to one except for our children's in about 15 years.  I thought that was great - he hates weddings, she loves them, and she didn't make an excuse for him, just said he doesn't like them so he doesn't attend.  No biggie.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics