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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are opposite. We are under my MIL's thumb. It took us years to have a real traveling vacation that didn't involve a pit stop with family between funerals and weddings and reunions. We don't get 5 weeks off per year, so I grew resentful. If we said we couldn't afford to go visit X family, she would offer to pay for hotels, airfare, etc. We finally had to book ahead of time and say, no thanks. We flew to the beach and had a wonderful, family free time.

In your situation, I think a great compromise would be to stop one of your two visits and instead, book a big family trip. You could rent a house on the beach or a cabin in the mountains. Your carribean family can plan ahead and instead go there 4x and meet you for their 5th trip. Other family can be brought in on it too. Just spark the conversation and see. [/quote]

Oh god.  This sounds like hell to me.  Lots of people enjoy it, but please don't put something like this out there as a mandatory test of family loyalty.

I can understand where you are coming from.  I have an SIL who really does talk up the importance of family ALOT but when she is in town, takes off for trips to NYC after two days with the family, and it strikes me as odd (I doubt I'd notice it if she didn't talk incessantly about how much she wishes she could see everyone more). Anyway, I second the people above who suggest actually offering a specific invitation rather than a vague open-ended one, whether it is for a vacation together or just a trip to your home. But be ready to take no for an answer. [/quote]

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