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[quote=Anonymous]I'm 14:49 with the child who was held back then skipped ahead.

I think we should talk about resiliency. Resiliency is what makes you successful in life, not great academics or some splinter skill. It comes from the coaching your mind receives, either externally from parents/therapists, or internally through self-talk when there is trauma. It is the ability to rebound from a period of high stress and failure, with optimism and hope and hopefully, lessons learned for next time.
Mary Alvord does a lot of work with resiliency, and even though we did not have the greatest experience with the practice she founded, I think the concept is a wonderfully applicable one to children with special needs.

When I look at my two children, one who had special needs from birth, the other with no issues in her life at all, I can see that my child with SN is by far the most resilient. He has clawed his way to learning to eat, walk and talk, and now he is working hard on socializing and being attuned to his environment and staying organized. He has had so many setbacks and failures, in the form of bad grades, people thinking he was stupid, being rejected, teased and bullied by his peers. His stoicism and tenacity are heartwarming. He is not afraid of failure and learning through his mistakes.
My second child on the other hand has always excelled at everything and everything has come easy. The day she fails at something will be incredibly traumatic, and she will not be prepared. 
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