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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh wow... I am one of the PPs with the ASD child. Our full story is that we actually pulled DS from K in November of this year. We didn't want to keep him back... but we put him back in pre-k. No regrets. Our K experience was almost as bad as yours. When we left in November, DS had cried nearly every day of being at school. He was withdrawn, cried on weekends about going on Monday, etc...

So, when people say not to hold back for social reasons, they must not have a child who has serious anxiety, inability to communicate with peers, sensory sensitivities or any of the other non-academic yet serious issues that impact a child in a school setting.

Since switching schools, we have had smooth sailing. DS still has ASD... don't get me wrong. He's no social butterfly... but he has space to practice social skills in a safe, calm setting without 20 other kids moving and talking around him.

I just want to sympathize and say I know from experience as well how bad K can be for a kid who is not ready to meet the expectations. [/quote]

When I say don't hold back, it is because there are no major behavioral or identified learning issues.  For ADHD and ASD, those are entirely different situations.  OP is just saying developmental delays.  For us, socially being with older kids was really helpful, same for the language and other delays, some of which were significant.  The school setting makes a huge difference as does small class size and attentive teachers.  I wouldn't have sent my kid when I did if we went public in a large classroom where he would get lost.  But, we did a small private for a few years and it worked out really well.  Luckily no academic issues have arisen, just continued delays which are slowly improving.  My child can sit extended periods of time and other stuff, which makes the difference to send or not.  We also had our child in a very structured preschool for two years to get them ready and prepared for what the day was like so it wasn't a huge change once the routine was learned.  [/quote]

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