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[quote=Anonymous]My mom is similar.  Rarely comes to visit, and about the time we had kids, she moved to the middle of nowhere, a 7 hour drive from the nearest airport, so getting kids there is a nightmare.  And still, we did it on a regular basis, for a long time.  The last straw for me was last year, when we planned a family vacation to go see my sister, out on the opposite coast from me.  We were planning to meet at a resort town an hour south of my sister.  I took the kids out of school for two weeks to do it.  At the last minute, my mom, stepdad and sister decided not to drive the extra hour and left us hanging on Thanksgiving.  After that I told them that we're no longer coming to visit, and won't ever arrange any vacations together again, but that they were welcome to come visit us anytime.  We recently spent a lot of money building a nice guest suite so they could comfortably come visit.  But more than a year later, it's clear that she has no intention of coming out to visit.  Also she never calls me, which I only really realized when I stopped calling and we stopped talking.  She is an avid Facebook poster, though, and if you read her posts, you'd think that we were bosom buddies and she was super close to the grandkids.  Ha ha.

So all that said, my therapist has been trying to work with me to gently point out that my mom is not the supermom that she makes herself out to be and that I believed she was, and I'm starting to see it.  It's heartbreaking, but at least I can stop throwing myself at her feet now.  OP, you might eventually just have to come to terms with it, as well.[/quote]

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