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[quote=Anonymous]Your sister needs to grieve about her fertility and then look for a reasonable approach to becoming a parent.

Anyone who would ask a sister to carry and deliver a child, then relinquish the baby and watch that baby grow up as someone else's, attending family events with that baby, presumably never telling that baby who she is, has not thought the situation through fully.

This would be terrible for all involved and increase adoption trauma times 10 for the resulting child.

It's also profoundly selfish behavior toward OP.  Asking someone to bear responsibility for a sister's access to motherhood is self centered in the extreme.

I understand that infertility can be heartbreaking. My best friend had five miscarriages before becoming a mother by adoption. It was brutal on her marriage and her sense of self. However, 12 years down the line they are a family. And the woman who gave up her child is not sitting across the table from them at Christmas nor did she bear a son out of guilt or obligation.

She can become a parent without tearing your life up. She needs to do so. [/quote]

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