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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 
DH has talked to them in the past about involving me more and has tried to politely bring me into their family business a little more. Up until now, it's been mainly a feeling of being an outsider.

DH was furious when they told him about the trip and told them no he's not going and it's not a family vacation without his family. I'm not big on confrontation, but I'm to the point where I want to say something myself.

They have the mindset of just another girl with me(or at least had) because we started going on dates shortly after he got out of a relationship. It was about a month later. They told him it wasn't serious it was a fling to get over his ex blah blah blah. They just never took it seriously. [/quote]

OP, I agree with the PP who said that as long as DH stands up for you properly, leave it alone.

I would add: Be sure that DH knows with crystal clarity how much it means to you that he stood up for you in this situation. Do not badmouth his family because he already knows they committed a truly vast insult towards you. Take the high road, ensure he knows that his support is something you treasure, and let him know that next time his parents interact with him and try to pretend that this all never happened -- and I'd bet they will -- you and he will need to talk about how you both plan to respond.

Be very glad they live a long way away and cannot turn up on your doorstep once you have a child.

I'd also let DH know: You and he will have the "How do we as a couple plan to show a united front to your family" discussion when you do have a child, because his folks might suddenly decide they want to see that grandchild and you are in their way.[/quote]

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