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[quote=Anonymous]I echo the PP above to think carefully about what role you see your family--and particularly grandparents--playing in your kids' and your lives.  What does a "more active role" in your child's life look like?  Does that square with what you want?  What if they get sick (heaven forbid)?  etc.

I think a lot of people romanticize what having family close by will look like, when the reality is more complicated.  My mom was very excited to help us with childcare, then my younger sister acted up and mom had to keep working FT to help support her and her kids.  And then she was able to watch our kids one day/week, but then she had surgery and after that found out she has cancer.  She's better, thankfully, but the idea that having local grandparents = free, on-demand, outstanding childcare doesn't always pan out.  I'm not saying that's what you expect, OP, more that it's worth considering what you want things to look like, and whether that's realistic.

And don't get me wrong: it's wonderful in a pinch that my mom can help with certain things, and I'm grateful for the relationship she has with my kids.  [/quote]

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