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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I saw that article on ScaryMommy and wanted to send it to my SIL. Our babies would have been 5 weeks apart. That article truly articulated how I felt. I'm second guessing sending it to her now. [/b]

I would be straight with your sister.  Some people want to avoid talking about their miscarriage, others want people to acknowledge their baby's existence. It is so personal and different for everyone. I'm sorry your sister can't seem to figure out that you want some space about it. [/quote]

Do not send her that article.  I have also read it.  It may articulate how YOU feel, but it is HER tragedy.  Miscarriage is such an ugly, unfair thing.  While your heart is in the right place, she doesn't need to be reminded that you have a healthy baby, and she doesn't, or how her tragedy makes you sad for yourself.[/quote]

I'll agree, don't send it.  I have had 3 miscarriages.  I feel a bit differently about all of them, and one thing I've learned is that women all deal with them in their own way.  Your friend might love that you sent that, or she might feel really uncomfortable that she doesn't agree.  Or even that it seems you feel MORE upset by something she's already put in her past.  Basically, it's complicated. [/quote]

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