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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think your habit of commenting on every little decision she makes is so entrenched, you have no idea you are doing it. It would never occur to me to question an adult sibling's food order at a restaurant. I can absolutely understand why your comments would be seen as a criticism of her choices. I don't know you so I can't say if you sound as critical in person as you do right now, but if you do come off that way, I can understand why she needs a lot of space. Also, you are clearly not welcome in her home so don't think you can just show up at any time.[/quote]

This is OP. Her accusations were pretty horrendous. She said I have caused her to lose weight, develop pimples and fail her exams and turn her into a crazy person. She has had enough and she doesn't give a damn about what I think anymore and she does not like me as a person.

You'd think I slept with her BF and killed a friend or some such.

I don't know...maybe I have been critical. I do not think my offences warrant the vitriol she is throwing at me.[/quote]

You don't get to decide how she feels as a result of how you treat her. Her feelings are her own. You also don't get to decide if she is overreacting. You don't know her life better than she does. If you want to repair the relationship at any point, the first thing you have to do is accept how she feels, and not try to get her to change her mind. That's the whole problem in the first place, your control and judgement of her life.[/quote]

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