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[quote=Anonymous]We chose adoption because once we realized that our child would not be a combination of the two of us together, the importance of a biological link went out the window for us.  So we felt no draw towards donor egg.  I know this will not apply to everyone else, but I also felt like it would be a bit silly to go to such extremes to "create" a child when all signs were pointing towards: "You cannot have a biological child" and "There are so many other children out there in the world who need parents."  We had a straight-forward adoption process with China both times.  We were drawn to China b/c you can specify the gender (and I wanted girls) (surprisingly, it is a longer wait actually for girls b/c a lot of adoptive parents want girls, so if you specify "boy" or "open to either,"  your wait will be quicker.)  We researched and carefully selected the special needs we were open to.  Our girls have been such a blessing to us.  I cannot imagine loving them anymore if they were biologically related to us.  As one other poster said, the fact that they look different is a good reminder to us that each child, whether they are biological or adopted, will be their own person and they are not extensions of ourselves.  You do not have to be a "saint" or a martyr to be an adoptive parent. You are just a normal person who feels drawn to this and you love the child you are given.  I think there is a natural, biological tendency for all humans to grow in love for any dependent creature given to them for care, honestly!  I cannot explain it but our love grows more and more each and every day!  PS  Even for my husband, who initially WAs in the "I can't love someone else's child" camp! He now shakes his head and is like, "I have no idea what I was thinking."  HAHA.[/quote]

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