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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Excuse me, but I'm like this.  I don't have children, but I mentor many tweens and teens.  Most parents prefer that their kids spend a few minutes with me, that way they have someone trustworthy to talk to, that isn't a teen...[/quote]

Are you a counselor? Because if not, i would not want my kids spending a few minutes with you, or any other adult who pretended to be their peer.[/quote]

NP here.[b] You have NO idea that this PP above is "pretending to be a peer" and neither does the OP[/b]. For all you or OP knows, this teen doesn't feel she can talk with her parents, or she doesn't have a teacher or other adult she feels comfortable talking with about certain things. OP, can you see how you might be reading too much into what you see? Please consider that you don't know enough to judge. As a parent of a teen girl, I can tell you that what you see is how many teen girls speak and stand when they talk with each other and, yes, with some very trusted adults. It's not weird. Boys don't necessarily interact the same way with adults from what I see of my close friends' teen sons.

I have a teen daughter and know that she needs some adults in her life who are not me or her dad. Most teens do need to know that other adults have their backs and can be sounding boards. It shouldn't take the place of parents being involved and aware of what's going on in the teen's life, but it also isn't automatically something of which to be suspicious.

I guess many folks, based on some posts here, would be suspicious of our close family friend who is in her 60s and doesn't have kids of her own but who for years has mentored many teens, both boys and girls, as a friend, tutor, chauffeur to events when parents couldn't drive them, etc. How sad for anyone to think that adults who are good with kids and interested in them must of course be somehow "off" or are pretending to be kids' peers.[/quote]

I'm the OP. I would never in a million years bump my shoulder against a teenager's shoulder like that. Sorry, but yes she is pretending to be a peer. She's middle aged. It looked totally weird.[/quote]

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