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[quote=Anonymous]I think the 3-4 month mark is pretty typical for saying ILY. I don't think that's too early. If he said it within the for 6 weeks or so I'd run like hell.

The bottom line to all of this is that you have found someone that you like who likes you - great! That's half the battle. The other half is getting to know one another, which can only be done over time.

It's time to sit back, enjoy yourself but know that you are really watching to see how this unfolds. For example - watch to ensure that his words match his actions, he follows through on things he says that he will do for you and in his life. Watch how he treats others.

You're basically like a scientist collecting data points right now. Just collect the information as you go.  There's no need to rush anything.

If you feel that you love him, you can say it back. If you're not there yet, tell him to bear with you while you get there too.

Date him for at least a year before you make any decisions about the future together and have a decently long engagement - you're still learning about one another during this time.

And remember, relationships are negotiated. See how well he bends for your needs and you bend for his.

Basically, things sound good, but you don't have nearly enough data to make any decisions about a future with anyone. Let things progress and evaluate as you go. The good news is you don't have to make any decisions any time soon and all decisions about whether to be with him or not are fully in your control.[/quote]

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