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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who plan vacations like OP make me feel so stressed and anxious. I'd much rather play it by ear when I'm on a break. The rest of life is scheduled enough...when else can my family just relax and have some spontaneity?[/quote]

I understand this in theory, and was like this pre-kids, but it's hard with little kids to be completely spontaneous if you also want to do much more than sit around the house...and it's really hard with a mixed age group of kids.  My toddler is 100-times more manageable and pleasant if she eats and naps on time (and by that I mean within a 1-2 hour window, which is pretty flexible for a 2 y.o. IMHO).  That's about all she needs, as well as some sort of energy release which can even just be running around in the backyard (as long as there are bigger, read park, outings the day before or after).  But ILs still don't seem to understand or care about that, and are constantly delaying or changing their minds etc...and then they make comments about how she's so cranky etc when she meltsdown b/c they want to go to a restaurant for lunch at 2pm which is an hour after her naptime and she hasn't eaten a proper lunch since I had to give her something on the go while ILs did whatever it is they wanted to do.  I pretty much just try to insist we stick to her schedule and don't mind being kind of a nag about it since I know everyone is happier in the end.

If you want relaxation/spontaneity, don't expect your relatives that you are visiting with little kids to be able to accommodate all of your whims.  I don't mind if that's your preference, but then you need to be a bit more independent with your plans.[/quote]

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