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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. She really wants to go. She and her sister have been spending weeks with grandparents during the summer since they were small. She would be devastated if the trip were canceled.

I'm not sure they'd say anything directly to her. I'm more worried about passing comments, like if a news story is on and they're supportive of the conservative side. Do I ask them not to express those opinions? Any negativity they've expressed has only been to me, never to DD. I've also told them there's no need to discuss her sexuality with her, but I can see so many ways lgbt topics can come up in 6 weeks.

They're willing to be coached. They think they're supportive. They want to be supportive. I want them to be supportive. They don't know what to do or say that would show support and still express their values, and I'm trying to show them ways to realize that completely accepting DD doesn't mean they're rejecting their values.

Basically, I expect them to totally come around and be accepting of DD eventually. Things like having girlfriends and a female SO and possibly children someday. I think it's going to take a while to get there, but we have time for that.

I just want to prevent any hurtful words that they think would be helpful, like they all asked me how she can know she's gay when she's only 13 and has never even kissed a boy. I think she'd be upset if they all told her she was too young to know who she's attracted to. So I asked them to avoid saying that, and they said they didn't realize it sounded like that's the message they're sending and said they'd try to avoid comments like that if the topic came up.

And I grew up in the south. I know what it's like. [/quote]

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