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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I stuck it out for about 20 years.  We probably had sex 20 times while we were married.  It was really odd.  I think both of us were passionate people, but my ex had some issues in his childhood that prevented him from maintaining a passionate relationship when we went from dating to marriage.

We had a decent relationship, one kid, and worked well together for the most part.  I was, however, very lonely.  In the long run, it really did a number on my self esteem.  In retrospect, it was not as healthy as relationship as I thought it was (don't laugh at me -- I know that is a weird thing to say).  I thought that I was sticking by him and just appreciating what I could.

Eventually, he had an affair and we split up.  We probably should have spilt up after about 5 years -- before we had a child.

I'm actually much happier now, but I do miss having a "partner" in parenting, household chores, and financial responsibility.

There's no easy answer.  You may leave and find happiness with someone else, but you may end up alone.  Same for him.[/quote]

I would never laugh at you. It is a serious situation when you love and respect someone but something very basic is absent. You can't wait forever or chase just passion, but otoh, to build a relationship without it leaves a very basic structural flaw.[/quote]

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