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[quote=Anonymous]My mom is about 70 and she is still bitterly, bitterly resentful of my dad whom she divorced 30 years ago.  She also resents that we kids didn't pick "her side" in the divorce, but instead, continued to have a relationship with my dad, his new wife (Affair partner) and new kids.

She is very self centered.  A common theme with her is, "I am entitled to my feelings".  She gets insanely angry over trivial things, she can't handle stress, she has terrible anxiety, she won't visit, she won't take planes,  (and hasn't for years).  She whines, "why isn't OUR relationship like such and such has with HER kids".  Well, have you ever though about the possibility that YOU are 50% of your relationships?

She's an alcoholic who gets completely shit faced every night.

She's erratic, one year she's selling Avon, the next year she's raising Emus for the meat, the next year she's doing something else.....

She's bitterly resentful of having lost her looks.  She was very pretty and that's about all she had, no education or skills.  Losing her looks is a torment to her.

Nonetheless she thinks she's very smart and is constantly lecturing the world on Facebook about politics.

She is simultaneously supportive and worried about her kids and yet very critical of our life choices, whether it's where we live, what we do, or how we raise our kids.

She comes up with incredible ways of changing the past "well MY kids never ate bologna!" she'll say, although I remember quite clearly that's not true.

She never calls because she says the long distance is too expensive.

I could go on and on and on...  I love her.  And she drives me absolutely nuts.  [/quote]

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