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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First it was no spanking, then it was no time outs. Now no punishment of any kind?

http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2016/04/07/alan_kazdin_says_parents_should_never_punish_their_kids_really.html[/quote]

I think you have to read the Kazdin method. Dr. Kazdin has helped so many families with challenging behaviors. He has studied children and what "really" works for decades. He teaches replacement behaviors that children can apply to many difficult parts of their day. His expertise is in reducing defiance and teaching better coping methods. Kids don't act out because they're not being punished enough- they act out because they can't cope with the task at hand. Transitions, dealing with tasks that are difficult or tedious, flexibility, emotional regulation, etc. are problems for many children. Punishing escalates the situation but it doesn't teach a kid the executive functioning to tackle a particularly difficult or undesirable task. Those are skills that must be learned in a way that is consistent and motivating. Punishment doesn't motivate and there's evidence that it's not a particularly great deterrent to many children a especially when they are outside of your immediate control. 
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