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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do a lot of this with my son. I'm not perfect. But I completely agree that kids (anyone) habituate to punishment and it becomes increasingly less effective.

And largely, it's been successful. I don't know if I would have had the patience to use this approach if I had had more than one kid. And he's 9. Let's see how this investment pays off in the crazy teen years. I don't know that yet.

It's interesting too. I owned a dog before I had a kid. When I got the dog, all the rescue people said to use positive reinforcement. Don't punish. They don't understand being punished. We grew up punishing our dogs, so I had to unlearn everything I had seen.  I did have to change a lot. And I had a much better behaved dog as an adult.

And yes, I just compared raising a dog to raising a child. I see a lot of similarities.  ;) [/quote]

Raising a dog is totally different (and a lot easier IMO). A dog wants to please their owner, first of all, and a child's job is not to please their parent. The relationship formed between an owner and a dog is the end-all and be-all of the experience, whereas raising a child is all about them becoming independent of the parents. Totally different experience unfortunately.

I have more than one kid, and I can say that kids are different. Some are just naturally able to listen to reason and adjust their behavior, and others just aren't. I think parents of "good" kids can chalk it up to their particular parenting style, but honestly it's probably the kid's personality more than anything else.[/quote]

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