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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks everyone for responding.  I definitely appreciate the advice.   Stigma--That's the word I was looking for.  I want him to get these services if he needs them, but I don't want him to be stigmatized. I know it's probably nothing I can do about that.  This process makes me feel as though my son's life is passing right in front of my eyes. I just want it to slow it all down.[/quote]

There is something you can do - go all private either paying yourself or via your health insurance.  Public services are just one way to do it.  Its not the only way.[/quote]

But once the child is ready for preschool things might become more difficult. Not sure where OP is located, but some states have good preschool programs like PEP in MD and VA. Private preschools may not be able or willing to cope with a child who is different in any way, unless it is a special needs school or inclusion school. Eventually the child has to go to school, so that's when doing everything privately may not be possible anymore. Plenty of people around here report that for mild ASD their child does the best with an IEP in public. [/quote]

OP hasn't stated how severe or if she even knows as things can change, especially for the better in the next few years.  We did private preschool and a small private school.  Eventually we will go to public but the small class sizes were vital for our child.  [b]Its very easy to do all private if you are wiling to pay[/b] and can find the right fit.  I'm glad we did all private but that is based on my child's needs.[/quote]

PP, paying for private school means you are financially [b]able[/b]--not [i]willing[/i].  This price tag doesn't include any additional therapies that a child might need like occupational, speech, or behavioral therapy.  Also, great if your kid needed small class sizes in the early years, but the OP has no way of knowing of what kind of supports her kid will need in the future.  Private school for NT or SN is expensive.

Also, trying to avoid the stigma of an IEP under the autism label is nothing to be proud of.  It will be harder to get an IEP when your kid is older so cross your fingers he doesn't need one once he gets into public.[/quote]

Expensive is relative. We paid about $5-6000 for preschool.  OT was 100% covered.  ABA and Speech were minimal copays once we got insurance to pay.  Prior that for a year we paid $150 a session.  There are also clinics at U of MD and other school for speech therapy.  Our private school is $1000 a month.  Point is, it all can be done privately, and yes, it costs money but we were willing to make those sacrifices to do it.  We have a small house in need of repairs, older cars/paid off, don't take vacations, etc.  No one knows what the future brings but getting them the right help on the front end early on while their brains are still adapting, clearly has shown its worth.

There is a huge stigma.  And, my child has changed enough where the label is no longer fitting.  We will go to public soon and keep our private services.  If he needs an IEP at this point, it will be minimal and no where what he would have needed years before.  So, that to me, was worth keeping it all private.  At this point, he'll probably barely qualify as academics are not an issue.

[b]Just because you are not willing to go through the expense[/b] or time commitment doesn't mean its not worth it to someone else or they shouldn't do it.  [b]I will spend every ounce of disposable income we have to help my child be successful in the long run[/b].

Most kids, regardless, could benefit from smaller class sizes and many other supports.[/quote]

PP, you are a giant ass.  You have great insurance coverage b/c your kid [i]has[/i] an autism diagnosis.  You also seem to be tone deaf as to other people's ability to pay for private.  It's not a willingness issue.  You also don't need to spend every ounce of your disposable income b/c there are public school services available--so stop being a martyr.  BTW, there isn't a "huge" stigma--that's in your head.[/quote]

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