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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the helpful replies. I don't think there is strings attached. I think I'm imagining the strings being there. It's my husband's grandmother who has quite a bit of money and has offered to pay a chunk of tuition without being asked. I feel grateful but also feel a little uneasy. I think she has a full heart and good intentions but it's a lot of money... I guess I'll always feel like saying thank you isn't enough. [/quote]

I'm not sure how you'd refuse this in a way that doesn't hurt her feelings. She wants to make sure her great grandchild has a good education and you seem like a decent person who would appreciate the money. Take the money and once a month, send her a mailed photo or child artwork. No need to keep saying thanks, but the monthly letter keeps her involved in your lives.[/quote]

This.  I knew several people in college whose grandparents paid for part or all of their college education.  Few people would shy away from accepting a gift of a contribution to their child's 529, this isn't really all that different.  You're accepting a gift of education on behalf of your child.  It seems like it's the amount that concerns you which is something you should discuss with your DH including (1) what happens if the $ runs out before your kid graduates, (2) how it could impact relationship and future inheritance dealings with BIL, and (3) your concerns about whether there are truly no string attached.  It's his family, so he can assess all of those things better than you.[/quote]

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