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One thing to consider if you will be caring for a parent who does not have extreme health issues would be to find a good adult day program which LTC would cover and the hours could enable one to continue working.  This option would generally be much more inexpensive than bringing in a caretaker to your home or to the parent's home.  Also do research on assisted living, dementia, rehab nursing and long term nursing care options because you never know how the path of aging and illness will flow.  In this way you will have done the research and know the pros and cons of certain places and the different levels of care.  For instance, if one is in a dementia unit with long-term nursing care available, but NOT rehab nursing care, then if one falls and breaks anything, one would have to suddenly go to a rehab nursing setting which could be upsetting.

Also meet with a couple of agencies ahead of time and look at adult day programming sites ahead of time just to understand what the best choice for a parent might be either in having an agency organize the care for the person or if one has to make a choice in a day program.  Any of this research would be beneficial in your area if a parent is likely to come there or to know about in their community.  This could be one role an out of area sibling might do for the sibling(s) who live close to aging parents and may have more of the front line, direct care.[/quote]

Have you been through the process?  I've been caregiver in our home and I can tell you the adult day care is not great.  They just sit in a room all day with little stimulation.  Plus, you have to get your parent back and forth, not including trying to get them fed, dressed as well as yourself and kids.  You cannot compare caretaking for a parent and child the same.  Caring for a parent is 10 times harder, even when compared to a SN kid, like I have.

Nursing homes... they are an absolute nightmare.  I spend 15-20 hours a week, right now double that dealing with the nursing home.  (this has become a full-time job dealing with the nasty administrators).   Not including visiting, shopping and other stuff.  The nursing home is an absolute nightmare.  The care is terrible and all the residents do is sit all day.  Have you tried to get a loved one into one, especially on medicaid?  Have you tried to transfer facilities (doing that now)?  Its easy to say do this, but the doing is something else.

Do you understand the progression of dementia, what it looks like and how much care is really involved when they have difficulty with everything, how they are emotionally volatile as they are confused and do not understand what is happening to them...its a horrible thing to have to watch and go through.  [/quote]

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