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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I guess I asked for this kind of crap when I posted, but seriously people.  I don't have some inappropriate/cruel/immature relationship with my child where I "overburden" her with my adult issues.  [b]You know why she knows about ONE of my THREE pregnancy losses? [/b]Because I miscarried during a road trip right in front of her and we had to stop along the road and go to a hospital. And she was told by a nurse, not me, while I bled and cramped up in a room far away from her. Please don't make nasty assumptions about why I've told my daughter what I've told her.

And as for why she even knows that we're trying? Because she wants a sibling more than anything in the world. Because she prays at night, every night, for it and we aren't even church-goers. Because every Christmas since she was 7, she has asked Santa for a sibling [b]and nothing else[/b]. So yeah somewhere along the way, when barraged with 1,000 entreaties as to why we weren't expanding our family we sat her down and said something like "baby, we want you to know that the reason you don't have a sibling isn't because we aren't trying.  Some people try and get one and some people have to wait a long time before they get one and some people try and try and never get one. But we're trying." And no, we didn't inappropriately say much more than that. Sorry. You can't convince me THAT was oversharing. [/quote]

OP, from your 12:46 post:  "She has noticed my previous 3 pregnancies within WEEKS because of bloating."

I think your previous comment may have been what led people down the rabbit hole.

Best of luck.[/quote]

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