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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think you have to pick which way you want things to go.  Either you want her to be truthful and you don't judge or you rather not know because you don't agree with it and feel strongly about the subject. [/b]I'm probably the squarest among one set of friends and they honestly where to draw the line.  When it comes to cheating in a marriage I will be honest and say that having lived thru adultery/divorce with my parents it is a hot button topic for me that brings back a lot of painful memories.  I understand that situations can be different and there can be areas of gray, but I still believe the best course for my parents would have been to either really try to save the marriage or divorce so they could have an honest out in the open relationship with someone that might be a better partner.

If you think she is a good person and a good friend, focus on that.  Also encourage her in getting the support she needs to get thru the rough patch in her marriage.  The whole Facebook, perfect life is a myth.  No one has a perfect life so I wouldn't get wound around that.  I warn my kids about social media being a permanent record and the importance of never posting something you wouldn't want your mom to read.  So of course your friend isn't going to post about marriage troubles (short of actually divorcing) on Facebook.

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This. I'd tell her frankly that I love her and support her emotionally but that I'm having a hard time hearing and not judging. That way you can support her and she can support you having a hard time.[/quote]

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