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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister started having lots of trips to DC for work, so she started staying with DH and I instead of a hotel. She is paying us, but only a few hundred dollars and the arrangement is pretty temporary. We enjoy her staying with us and don’t mind that at all. Her work here in DC has gotten increasingly busy and she’s not able to go home to her family often now and wants them to come stay at my place during spring breaks, summer and long weeks. While we love our nephews (preschool age) and BIL a lot, it’s too much. We don’t have kids and when they leave, DH and I are exhausted and the house is pretty wrecked. Last time they came for 3 weeks.[b] I think the major thing is that they’re no longer “guests” but that we have no say over anything really. They do take over our house,[/b] kitchen, the washer/dryer and our only TV.

So we said no more, but now everyone is upset at us and we feel like we’re preventing my sister from seeing her family. While this has nothing to do with money, DH and I have really sacrificed to have our nice sfh here and we pay a lot to live in it and enjoy it. Were we wrong for setting limits? I’m really feeling like the bad guy here.
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To me, this is the crux of the problem.  You have people taking over your home, leaving a mess, and not acting like guests anymore.  I'd tell your sister that you're fine with a long weekend now and then, but three weeks is just too long.  You don't need to give her a bunch of excuses and explanations.  Give her a list of nearby hotels with suites for her family to stay in.  [/quote]

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