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[quote=Anonymous]OP - I'm sorry about your DC with health problems. That must be very difficult for all concerned, and I wish you the best.

You seem to view it as your parents' (esp. your mother's) obligation to help you out. It isn't. It's their choice -- one you may disagree with, of course. They may feel that they've raised their children, they've worked hard and now they are retired, and they feel entitled to live out the rest of their lives as happily as they can. (At that stage, the end of the road looms much more clearly into view.)

The fact that your mother came and stayed with you for 2 months shows that she was willing -- however reluctantly -- to help you in a crisis. She may not, however, view it as her duty to provide you with ongoing labor and other support to help you raise your own family. I understand why that would upset you. But it is her life and her choice to make.

It does seem clear that you need help, though. You've got a lot you are dealing with. Can you outsource part of the work to babysitters, home health aides, etc. And do you have a DH in the picture? Is he carrying his fair share of the load, and is there family on his side that you can call for help as well? [/quote]

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