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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We (kids and I no DH) arrived at IL's yesterday.  My SIL and her kids are also here. We spent today at the beach with SIL, BIL an cousins. When we came in to the courtyard/pool area, I asked kids not to go into the main house while I figured out the shower and dinner plan.  While I was unpacking the car the kids hopped in the pool with their cousins.

MIL came out and made a snide comment about how it was rude that nobody came in to say hello. I responded by saying "I'm so sorry. I didn't  want the kids to get the house sandy and I asked them not to go inside." She replied "Well, I wouldn't have made that choice, but I guess some people thought it was a good idea "  She then turned and walked into her bedroom and shut the door. I then showered and when I was finished, I found her and basically fell all over myself apologizing for not greeting her and for offending her.  She was again so f#!*=* rude to me and told me not to make excuses and she didn't want to talk about it.

She has a history, of infrequent outbursts of this type. If I tell DH, he will lose his mind and it will start WWIII. I'm the peacekeeper and the one who manages all communications, gifts, vacations etc.  I want to pack up my kids and leave tomorrow because I feel like a doormat and also because things are pretty bad wth DH right now and the last thing I need is to take crap from his family. If I pack up and leave it will likely lead to a canceled summer trip with cousins and IL's and no communication for some time.

I want to stand up for myself but I'm not sure I'm prepared for the fallout. WWYD?[/quote]

Stand up for yourself - jeez, what is wrong with you.
Some terseness is called for - stop over apologizing.
Sure, say sorry once. If she doesn't move in and keeps lighting into you point out that she is being very rude and that she is making you and your family feel very uncomfortable. Be very clear about how she is making you feel. Then let her know that if her rudeness continues you won't feel comfortable staying.

How did she get so rude?! Who created this monster?[/quote]

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