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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most people don't need to be defended and protected from their parents.  Why do you ask this question, op?[/quote]
One of my siblings did something bad. I told my mom and my mom called and yelled at her and now that sibling isn't speaking to me because I didn't "cover for her."[/quote]

How old are you guys?  Why did you tell your mom?  Did you think your mom should do something about the situation?[/quote]
I'm 27 and she is 24.

We are foreign and on F-1 visa. I am in graduate school and she is finishing up her college studies Our parents kept us here together so we can keep an eye on each other. This past year she has changed a lot and started partying, drinking, throwing up in her friends cars and lying to me about it. Her friends and her keep everything from me and she gets mad when I send her a text asking her where she is at 1 am. It all got worse when she got herself a boyfriend and now she is always at his apartment and is now becoming friendly with his family and sister. All the while, my parents have NO IDEA that she is seriously dating someone. She hasn't even told me and I have discovered it only because her friend accidentally babbled.

Now my sister has blocked me from on all social media and she ignores my calls and she even ignores my parents international calls when she is out with this boy. My mom called me worried this weekend after my sister did not take her calls for 2 days. I then told her I suspect it is because she is with a boy and my mom flipped out and apparently yelled at her over the phone.

Now my sister is mad at me and hates me and says I'm a bad sister.

My parents are from Kuwait and are Muslim and this would break their heart. I never told them about her partying and drinking but her starting to make a new family without their knowledge is too much to me. 
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OP, I get it.  I'm married to an Arab Muslim and I know how the culture is really different.  I think your sister put you in a bad position, almost as if she expected you to "lie" on her behalf.   She's acting immaturely in many ways right now, and that's not abnormal for someone coming from a very socially restrictive culture to a very free culture.   She's mad at you because she's mad at herself.   She "should" be able to tell her parents candidly that she is seeing someone.  She "should" be responsible for her own behavior, not you.   But she's not brave enough to do it (yet?).

Can you talk to her at all?  Do you think she will calm down at any point?  I'd just tell her that you love her, you are looking out for her according to your culture, and she "knows" she's not abiding by that.   However, that is "her" choice to make (because it is), and you realize that.  But you do not want to be part of lying to your parents, and that's really unfair of her to ask or assume of you.    And that is "your" choice to make.

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