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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP i don't think you will stay sexually attracted to him as he ages and as you both sag and get more gaunt (gauntness is more prevalent in thin people as they age) by the time you are beyond your 50's its not as much about sexual attraction but being comfortable yet sexual with the other.[/quote]

I do realize this.  But, I want a sexual relationship with him.  Doesn't have to be a lot.  Part of the problem is that we never had great sex, so this is exacerbating it.  It's gotten to the point that I am pretty much sexually repulsed by him.  It makes me sad and angry, though I don't really even blame him.  I realize people grow old and get fat, it happens to so many people.  But his fat somehow equals extreme lethargy so it just makes the sex problems way worse.  He can't even seem to kiss me with vigor - any physical effort is just too much for him.  Is that just how it is as people age?  [/quote]
No, late 40s is too young to be lethargic. But unhealthy eating and extra weight do suck out all energy.

It sucks you have to deal with this, OP. You say DH knows you're unhappy about his weight gain, but have you actually brought this up explicitly? [b]Do you think a weight loss surgery would be a good option for him?[/b][/quote]

OP here.  This is an interesting idea.  I think he would be shocked at the suggestion, because my sense is he does not acknowledge just how fat he is.

And yes, I've brought it up one time very explicitly. Nicely, but crystal clear.  It was a while ago though and he's probably honestly forgotten how intensely I felt about it.[/quote]

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