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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I'm having second thoughts. It's not a feeling of "I can't live without him". We've been together for a very long time so there's no puppy love. All I want is happiness, stability and no drama -- for me and my children.  I said it was over because I think this will never end. It will be a lifetime fighting and stints of the silent treatment if I don't. But at the same time, if we just make up, it all goes back to normal now. We head to the beach and have a great week. but then what message am I sending to my kids? That that's a Normal relationship?  If I leave, it's a hell of a lot more instability and drama until I don't I when. It's so hard because I don't know what the other side will look like. Maybe I'm just getting scared and need to stay strong?

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Change is really scary even if it is likely to be a change for the better.  Your DH will manipulate you via the silent treatment, etc. to try to get you to let things remain the same because he likes it the way it was.  Write yourself a private letter and carefully detail all the reasons you feel the current situation is not what you and your kids deserve.  Read it when you need to in weak moments.  Women do not disolve relationships on a whim ... I trust you have very good reasons for why it is over or you never would have reached this point.  Write them down.  Read them often.  Be strong because it is worth it.  YOU are worth it.  YOUR KIDS are worth it.[/quote]

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