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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there a significant difference in your HHIs?  Maybe when they get your gifts they write it off as something that "rich Auntie Susie" does, but assume it would not be expected of them?  Just grasping at straws here, because it does seem weird that none of the three would think to bring anything.  Gifts for young kids are fun to buy and don't need to be expensive.

I think you're already looking at the bright side, less stuff to deal with.  Also, fewer thank you cards to write.

As far as when you child is older, if you have a good attitude about it and accept it as normal, your child will too.

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No, we're all relatively comparable as far as HHI, none of us wealthy by any stretch, but none of us hurting at all either. My household is not the highest HHI in the bunch. It does seem like there must be some element of "that's just something Aunt Suzie does" without the rich part, though.

Yeah, I think I just need to shift my expectations of how we show we care about each other and each other's kids. I think one aspect that stings a little is that I know none of them would show up to a friend's kid's party without anything at all for the kid, and probably not even for nieces/nephews on their spouses' sides of the family either, if for no other reason than they wouldn't want to be seen as rude (and I do think it would occur to them in those contexts that it would be noticed and possibly hurtful) - I'm not sure why it's different within our immediate family, but if it becomes consistent with all of the nieces/nephews then I guess it'll just be our norm. The thing is, it hasn't been this way before, at least not consistently or that I've noticed. [/quote]

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