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[quote=Anonymous]Neither of us would have enjoyed being home with toddlers 100%. Both of us took 3 month maternity leave with each child.

I worked 32 hours a week for the 1st year of both of our child's life. My H did not handle 1-3 yo very well. We had a live in nanny until the youngest was full time in school. She only worked 30 hours a week since our work life was so flexible and we don't work crazy hours. This was nice because we had a ready made babysitter every other Saturday (since she was paid for 40 hours/week) so we could continue to build our relationship and marriage after kids.

Both of us could have jobs that allowed the other to SAH (I actually make more than my H). But, the working parent would have to work 60 hours a week and travel. We both love being 100% involved in our kids lives so we both have flexible government jobs.

I would not want to sacrifice seeing my kids and being fully involved in their lives so he could SAH, and he feels the same way about me SAH.

If I SAH or my H SAH each of us would not have a whole lot of respect for the other if they spent 9am-3pm doing very little, it is not that hard to grocery shop, cook, do laundry and pick up the house each day, that does not take 6 hours x 5 days = 30 hours a week. Neither of us is going to clean so either way there would be a cleaning service. I don't really see the point for either sitting around the house all day, or going to the gym or whatever once the kids are in school.

My H was a SAHD once when he was between jobs and he was bored.[/quote]

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