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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's very difficult to attend to the positive things that my kids do because when they are reading, playing together, etc., I'm just so happy to get a break and so I don't acknowledge that behavior. Then, when all hell breaks loose, as it always does, I swoop in to say stop fighting, etc. So all they heard was me attending to the negative things that they were doing and they learned that negative things get attention. It is an extremely difficult habit to break and is not something that comes naturally to me.[/quote] I have a younger child, but this is a really good reminder for me too. [/quote] Interestingly, this is exactly the pattern of problematic parenting that is described by Kazdin in his work on dealing with difficult children. He talks about parents needing to "catch" their children being good, as opposed to always attending to them when they are misbehaving. It is a difficult habit to break, for sure.[/quote]
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