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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't push burial plans at the same time.  His driving is the bigger issue.  I'd do Uber and taxis unless there are friends and relatives willing and able to help out with the driving.  Doesn't sound like your dad is going to want to have a helper around just yet since he is doing everything else fine. My parents are 88 and 92 and haven't decided on a burial plan either.  When the time comes, we kids will just do what we think is best.  [/quote]

Yeah, drop the plot issue. A burial is for the living, not the person who has died. Your dad MUST engage with and live with the decisions like how he gets to poker, and whether he is safe to use the stove. If he doesn't want to discuss burial, fine - you'll just have to make the decisions for him, and since you are the one who has to live with the decisions, isn't that okay?

I so sympathize, OP. My dad has late stage Parkinsons and I was a social worker for elders with dementia for many years. Your life with dad is going to get difficult and complicated for a while. Hang in there, and just drop all issues that are non-essential, that don't promote safety and happiness. There are too many really important things you are going to work out to also deal with non-essentials.[/quote]

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