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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand why you feel the way you do - you never agreed to carry this out by yourself and it's a big load for one person.

But, from your sister's perspective, should she not marry this guy? Let him take care of her if that's what they both want? Maybe she could really be happy with him - should she give that up because her parents invested in her? I know you know the answer is no, but it sounds like your family is disappointed that they won't get a return on the investment they put into her, but your sister is not the stock market. She's not an insurance plan. She's a person, she has her own life to live. I realize that sounds selfish, but it's also true. Children are not economic commodities, not any more at least.[/quote]

OP here. That is extremely untrue and a disrespectful way of phrasing our relationship with our parents. Our parents gave us everything we wanted even at a great cost to themselves. They did not bring us here so we can hunt for husbands. They brought us here so we can become women of substance and learn a skill or two and contribute to the world. We were supposed to stick together and take care of each other. I feel as if I have been abandoned. Ever since she met this boyfriend of here, she is distracted, and spends all her time with him and thinking of him and texting and talking with him. She doesn't have time for me and now she is making plans without me and that doesn't include our family.

I feel...left behind and replaced by her boyfriend. I miss her terribly and can envision that once she's married she'll not really interact with us much. She had been protesting the arrangement the past few years. She didn't like finance and she'd loudly complain about how she wanted to go far away from her family and me because she couldn't be herself around us. I thought she was just being moody but now, watching her jump at the chance to run away with this man, she was dead serious.[/quote]

Oh OP, grow the heck up and stop blaming everyone else because you are unhappy with your lot in life.  You just want to be the perfect child.  Your sister is more interested in growing up and starting her life and you should too.  Just being biter and angry because you stunted your own development is a waste of time.

Yes, your parents sacrificed a lot but guess what?  The vast majority of parents will sacrifice quite a bit for their kids, you just don't see it in everyday life but once you are a parent you will understand.  And moreover, plenty of parents are not looking to be paid back in the way you think and they will still love their kids even if they don't pay them back.[/quote]

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