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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1.  Your parents are blinded in the same way many parents are with that unapologetic, unconditional love they have for their kids.  It's the same love they have for you, and the rest of the siblings. It's the same kind of love you have for your kids.  Until you've been there in the shoes of a parent of an addict you have no idea.   Being a sibling isn't the same- and I truly hope you never find out.

2. It's entirely possible there are issues concerning your brother you are not privy to.

3.  Your parents' money issues are their own. You can't blame  that on anyone else but them.

4.  Mental illness is real,   A common time for onset is late teens/ early 20's- college age.   A common method of management is use of illegal drugs. That is fact. That is science.   I assume you aren't against science as a child of an MD.

5. You can create whatever boundaries you want with your brother, but you are not entitled to  dictate other people's boundaries with him.
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All of this. Very well put.[/quote]

I agree as well.  I've got a mentally ill brother, probably with a personality disorder as well, but "all" he's been diagnosed with is bipolar disorder.  Refuses any treatment.  Everything is everyone else's fault.  Huge rages.   The whole 9 yards.   Mostly I felt sorry for him, but he started hurting his child and our mother, and I couldn't tolerate that.  My mother finally, after 2 years of hell, did the tough love thing and cut him off, but a kid can't cut him off as easily.  Fortunately me ex sis in law was able to get full custody and now my brother can't hurt his child anymore.   But I HATED him for hurting two very vulnerable people.  My mom is elderly and to watch her only son treat her like crap was just devastating.  Sometimes I still feel sympathy, but mostly hatred.   His rages are like napalm on scores of people.   There's always a huge fall-out, and always a ripple effect.   Untreated mental illness is an illness like no other in terms of how much damage it does to so many people. [/quote]

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