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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He takes one of those highly compensated but crazy travel jobs that nobody senior wants when they have kids. You live in your hometown and take jr and jet off to meet him. Be super flexible and it will be habit. Rest of the time you nestle at home![/quote]

Essentially your choices boil down to:
A - one of you compromises, either he gives up globetrotting and settles for the once or twice a year traveling vacation with the family or you settle for world travel lifestyle with the once or twice a year visits back home with the kid (with or without husband)
B - you get a divorce
C - you live separate lives, you move home to raise your child with grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins.  He takes globetrotting job that makes him happy.  You agree to meet regularly (maybe quarterly or every other month) and you alternate whether you and the child go to visit him or he comes "home".  So you'll see each other 4-6 times a year for a week or two.

There really aren't a lot of options when you don't really come to an agreement before you get married.  You vaguely think you discussed it but don't really recall the resolution.  You  really should not have married until you were both on the same page.  I understand that the current temporary job wasn't on the table when you decided to get married, but the fundamentals of living near family vs the adventure of traveling for work and working with travel should have been pretty evident and should have been discussed to the point that you were in agreement how to compromise before you even set the wedding date, let alone went through with it.[/quote]

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