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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Congratulate her for being deep enough to see beyond the physical in her attraction to you. Then don't let her off the hook. If she was emotionally attracted to you before, what's different now? You want more sex, so the two of you need to do things that create emotional intimacy and connection between you. [/quote]

Congrats? No she was an opportunist and selfish. I bet he is a nice stable faithful guy who will do anything for her. She used him. Nothing to be proud of marrying someone who me you are not attracted to. She made a sexual death bed and he unknowingly walked right into.

There is no resolving this. Yiu cannot manufacture sexual chemistry.

I say this as someone who did exactly what the OPs wife did. I have duty sex with my poor sweet husband who feels more like my best friend. It is repulsive sometimes and when it's not I have to imagine very very hard. I would never tell him because I fucked up. This guy loves me to death and is extremely attracted to me . He's attractive himself and is a perfect catch. Women would be lined around the corner for him.

In my selfishness I've fucked myself too. I'm devoid of passionate sex for the rest of my life. Yes, he is a good lover, but without chemistry it always falls flat.[/quote]

DH here:  If you were my DW, I'd want to know.  In fact, I think my DW is in exactly the same place, and would never tell me either.  After many years of trying really hard to make sex work for us, I'd rather just have her be honest and then we could find some way to deal with it.  It's really not fair for your DH to not know what is going on.  He is probably thinking every day about why it isn't working and how to make it better.  I know I am.  [/quote]

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