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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've been married eleven years and the past couple have been BAD. Both of us are at fault, but on his end, he has been very emotionally abusive. Swearing, name-calling, manipulation, degrading, etc.  I felt like he had no respect for me or anything I value. He pretty much insulted everything about me at one point or another.  I would pay for parking in DC when my commute would otherwise be free just so I could have time alone to cry. Then, he started seeing a therapist for some other issues, started meds, and I'm starting to see the man I married again.  The thing is, I have so much resentment built up that I'm not sure I can make this work. I love sex but don't want to have sex with him. I feel so disconnected and, just, worn out.  I know we need counseling, but I'm afraid. Afraid that it won't work, and afraid that it will. Any inspiration?  Good or bad. [/quote]

No you both don't need counseling, you do. To find out why you would tolerate this. You are with an abuser, he won't change. Don't waste time going to counseling. He will end up yelling, and degrade you after the sessions or afterwards. Forget him.

My advice would be to get out quickly.  Get your finances in order, see a lawyer and get the heck out.

Meanwhile learn some coping skills if this loser goes off on you again while you're getting your act together, leave the room or house quickly. Let him say his sickness to the walls.  This is what you do, don't give him the opportunity to degrade you.  By all means, don't argue, don't try to talk rationally with him - leave and walk away.

Yes why would you have sex with this abuser?   I hope you have enough self esteem to get out. Many co-dependents stay years.[/quote]

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