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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the OP. Normally I would mind my own business, but my friend tends to make rash decisions and then sob on my shoulders and ask why no one warned her. I DO think people should date a bit longer before engagement when there are minor children involved so that the kids get to know the parent's new partner. [/quote]

Then, you can ask her, apart from any discussion of the wedding, honeymoon or trip, if she wants your honest advice about issues/thoughts that she considers and that you disagree with or if she wants your support as a friend.  *IF* she says that she wants your honest advice, then when some idea comes up that you think is bad, you start with something like "Well, I'm not sure I would do that."  That tells her that you disagree, and it is then up to her to ask for more details if she wants.  Then she can decide on a case-by-case basis when you disagree with her, whether she wants to hear your thoughts or not.

However, regardless of her past lamentations, you don't just jump in with guns blazing, criticizing her wedding and/or honeymoon plans when you don't know whether your comments will be do more harm than help.[/quote]

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