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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think there are a few things going on here.

First, I don't think it's realistic to find a way to just be happy about having what is effectively an absentee spouse and co-parent.  You learn to deal 'cuz you do, but it does have an impact on your relationship.  DH was very much like this early on...and I think he got a wake up call when a couple of times he managed to take an evening off only to find out I already had other plans.  After getting tired of his getting home after I was asleep everyday, I decided I needed my own life so I created one.  He eventually decided he did want to be a part of it after all, and changed a bit.

A bigger issue for you, though, is that you also may not like being a SAHM.  It's hard to tease out, since being a SAHM while your DH works during the week and being effectively a 24/7 careprovider are two different things (I don't think the lattter is the same as being a single parent, since you don't have to stress about earning money).  But you speak of being bored with baby, which seems like it might be more about not liking SAHP'ing.

You said you've talked about this with DH already, and he won't change...which really tells me that your marriage is in trouble.  I would suggest counseling for your relationship (which is in a bad place regarldess).  But I would also suggest having honest look internally as to whether SAH is really what you want...because to me your post reads as if there are two simultaneous issues right now for you guys.[/quote]

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