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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you do Polish dishes at a cocktail hour and then Chinese at the main meal? Two receptions sound exhausting and expensive. I think you need to find a way to make one work. You are starting a new family with your new husband and someday maybe children. Now is the time to set boundaries with both sets of parents.

Also, even if your cultural tradition is for the in laws to give gifts to the bride, your in laws are not from that culture and should not be expected to conform to that tradition. As you find ways to meld your two cultures, you should concentrate on ways that honor AND welcome both sides/families. [/quote]

That was what I asked BF, but we have not found any hotels that allows this locally. Still looking though so I have hope.[/quote]

What is it that the hotel won't allow? 
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The 4 hotels we have asked do not allow outside catering so to bring in 2 different types of food for cocktail reception and then main course would not be possible. We would have to find another venue (hence we're looking at a winery option, but increases distance and travel time for both parties) that would allow outside catering and wouldn't care how we organize it.

We are planning everything and doing everything ourselves with our wedding party so there's no wedding planner to help us coordinate everything.

20:30, Thanks. I really like that idea and will run that by BF later this week and see how it goes over. Maybe Mom and FMIL will be on board with that as it would be honoring both sides and allows 1 reception.

Whoever was the PP that asked about expenses. If there were 2 receptions, my parents would pay for the chinese one because 90% would be there friends that they "just have to have" at the reception. It's a total status thing. If I had a reception where both sides of the families were invited at the same time, my parents wouldn't be able to have all their friends there because a. we would be paying for it ourselves, and b. it would not be possible to host that many people without blowing our budget.[/quote]

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