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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No advice on schools, but a thought: Consider whether you are increasing your DD's anxiety by encouraging her to always do her best. A kid like this needs to learn that she *doesn't* always need to do her best. That there are plenty of things that merit a "good enough" effort or even less than that. That it's okay to let some things go, the world won't come to an end.

I honestly think kids like your DD would benefit from occasionally having mom or dad say, "Let's just skip homework tonight and go get some ice cream instead. What's the worse that could happen?"[/quote]

OP here - We actually do exactly what you suggested.  My daughter is in 5th grade at a public school and on average does about 3 hours of homework a night. At first I was annoyed that the teachers were piling on the work for 10 and 11 year olds in an effort to teach them time management and get them ready for public middle school.  Then it occurred to me that it was a great opportunity for us to attempt to teach her what could possibly be blown off.  That some times it's ok to take a short cut.  It's clearly a work in progress, but rest assured that I am not a tiger mom.[/quote]

Veteran public school mom here. Something is very, very wrong when a 5th grader is spending 3 hours a night on homework. That is NOT normal. What school is this?[/quote]

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