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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ILs are always quietly passing judgment on our three young children's behavior. Our youngest is seven and, all in all, a good kid. But he definitely has his moments. Recently he refused to sit for dinner and proceeded to try to make himself something he "liked." My ILs were seething and very free with the facial expressions. Later I overheard them whispering about it. What makes it tough is that there are subtle commentaries but nothing direct. I know my kids aren't perfect (whose are?), but my gut reaction is, if you don't like it don't come. But we also don't want to have a major blow up. What to do?[/quote]

OP-- Don't listen to these other judgmental people who are just as bad as your ILs.  You just continue to do what you believe is in your child's best interest and don't feel bad about it.  If you feel that you should have reacted differently, then you will in the future.  Otherwise, ignore these people.  Unless people walk in your shoes it is very easy to judge.   [/quote]

Speaking as a person that's been in this situation as an "in-law" I'm not sure what OP is hoping for.  My nephew went through a phase for a couple years where everything was just difficult.  His parents were dealing with it the best they could but it sometimes made family dinners really frustrating.  No one would say anything to criticize my sister or BIL but, yea, after 15 minutes sitting at the table waiting to be able to eat while they tried to get him to comply, I'm sure some of us looked annoyed.  Heck, I bet OP looks annoyed herself when this is going down.

It's totally normal behavior on the kids part but that doesn't mean it isn't also obnoxious.  And it's totally normal for adults to find it aggravating, even if they realize the kids behavior is normal.  Kids are annoying, terrible, wonderful, loveable creatures sometimes and yes, even the most doting aunt or uncle or grandmother or grandfather is going to roll their eyes and sigh from time to time.    [/quote]

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